There’s nothing that anyone can do about what goes on in your head about your new dating adventure, but the goal is to keep those things from coming out.
Once those thoughts turn into actions, things go awry.
Lindsay King-Miller, from the fantastic advice column (and now book) “Ask a Queer Chick,” coined the term “umfriend,” for when you’re in the in-between, not-totally-sure-what-to-call-it dating space.
As in, “He’s my, um, friend.”You might also refer to him as something more detached, like my “plus-one,” “prospect” or literally, like, “This is my date.” Some prefer the tongue-in-cheek “not-boyfriend.” You can be coy (“fancy friend”) or a bit crass (“makeout buddy”) or cheesy (“this is my luvvah”) or even snobbish/fake-French. He’s just my au courant.”) They’ll probably be too impressed to even ask what it means (well-informed or fashionable, for the record).
Try not to let the call become regimented, with rules. Things will come up, and when they do, it's best not to have a punishable situation after missing out on a call.
For instance, try to avoid having “one call in the morning” and “one call at night” rules. Calling your significant other is intended to enhance the relationship between you and your girl, not detract from it.
The embryonic stage of your courtship, relationship or whatever you call it when you first start dating is quintessentially the most important time.
But if you’re not seeing anyone else, and you’re seeing a lot of each other what on earth is it if it’s not a relationship?
I know I can use the phrase "the guy I'm dating," but I would like to find a noun, a one-word, concise term I can use in conversation with my friends and family. —The Girl He's Dating Dear TGHD, I was in a similar situation a few years ago with a gal I was dating.
I very much wanted to be her “girlfriend,” but she was in no place to offer me that.
If you haven't gathered by now, I can be (at times, painfully) sarcastic. A lot of your emotional voice will likely be omitted through basic SMS text messages, especially during the beginning stages of relationships – friendships or intimate ones.
If you read my work, and don't know me personally, – or have a sh*tty detector for satire – it is likely that most of my sarcastic tone will go right over your head. There's only so much emotion our eyes can read, and pick up, in text. For instance, the way you say “get the f*ck out of here” to your college roommate, in that heavy Brooklyn accent, is f*cking hilarious.